I Choose to Reject the Lies of Rejection

There are many things in our lives that have caused an experience of rejection. Unfortunately, no matter how much our parents tried to protect us from this, every child will experience it, every teen, every adult, every lifetime. This doesn't mean we need to live affected by the lie of rejection. The fact is, yes, we may have been purposely rejected, there were many kids at school that outrightly told me that I was not good enough for them, I know I am not alone with this; however this does not need to take root, and if it does, the TRUTH will set me free.

Today I learned a small, but very significant truth about my life. This, now that I am aware of it, will be the start of my journey and process with uprooting Rejection.

I learned that my extremely messy room, eating habits, the stack of homework that stays not touched, they were all symptoms of me living out of Perfectionism; and a that is a symptom of Rejection. A light bulb turned on, when rejection collides with perfectionism this equals chaos, and this describe how I live my life. I was so afraid I couldn't live up to standards that I believed I should be living that I totally didn't even try, I didn't try because I felt so rejected by people, that I started buying into the lie that I was not good enough. That's where the Paralysis kicked in, I procrastinate, avoid, and live in a comfort zone. I get so scared of failing that I didn't even try, so scared of losing control that I control my life as I know how; by living messy and letting what I feel dictate what I do.

What's Next???

Now I know that some of my behaviours are from experiences of rejection and even perceived rejection, I can go through the forgiveness process. Forgiveness is not a feeling, it's an act of will, a choice. When we actively choose to forgive, we may be doing it with clenched teeth, but it still helps. Once we forgive them we release them from all hate, anger, malice, judgement, even murder in our heart, towards them. We bless them too. This whole process helps us get free. Like Joyce Meyers says: "Unforgiveness is like taking poison and expecting it to harm the other person." We really just harm ourselves. Declaring a blessing over the person releases them and us to greater destiny and truth. *side note, forgiveness for and blessing a person doesn't need to be in front of them or to them.*

Does this mean that I will suddenly eat better, have a tidy bedroom and do all my homework efficiently? No, but it will mean that I will get set free from the ROOT causes of some behaviours that result in those things, and therefore eventually I might feel like keeping my room tidy, eating healthier and planning out my homework.

So much JOY in this discovery. I hope my breakthrough will become yours.