I used believed that until I find someone that fitted all the things that I have given to God, I would not date anyone. I would just wait for God to send Him to me.
Wait a minute! What about if you start to like someone that doesn't fit your every criteria?! I am not talking about people who have completely different dreams as you, of course that wouldn't work, but people who have a heart for God, that seem to be going a similar direction...How bout then?
I also didn't believe in dating.
I am not sure if that is because I am from New Zealand, and well Kiwi's don't date a lot. But I just didn't think that dating was healthy, I had seen too many who would just ask a girl out because she is good looking and that was it. No other reasons, and here I was starting to believe that I was not beautiful. I was making a theory based on hurt. That's simply not healthy.
What I got from Relationship Week here at BSSM, was that dating is healthy, we all have a desire to date someone (except for those special few who are meant to stay single). It's ok to have the desire, its ok to want to be pursued, it's ok to desire a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's OKAY!!! What if someone asked you for coffee? Doesn't make a commitment for life! What if you find out they are just friend material? That's ok too, you had a coffee date and that can be fun.
There is one important thing to add though, make sure that when you do date someone, leave them better off for it. Relationships, whether friendships or more, should build you up, they should teach you new things and make you grow. So is the same in dating.
It has been my "Word of Observation" that many people have got so caught up in being happy in singleness, or trying to be happy being single, that they forget that it's ok to want someone. It is ok to need someone. God never intended us to have Him as ALL we need, though He can be very easily, He created relationship, he created Eve.
So go on guys, ask a girl out, girls don't put walls up, be ready to be pursued!
